How to win friends and influence people
If you want to become a lovable person with whom everyone will get to happy by seeing or talking with you. And people say “nice to meet you” and “he is a good guy, we like him”. Do you want to be a likable person or want to know how to win a girl’s heart or how to win a guy’s heart? If yes, then read this post.
Here are some tricks of how to win friends and influence people
Trick No. 1: Don’t criticize
In school or college we got the habit of doing criticize and this habit gets strong from time to time and when we see someone doing something wrong then we got angry and telling him to mistake or start teasing him as like..”Ohh idiot… tuje itna asaan kaam bhi theek se karna nahi aata.. nalayak…”
And then, that person did not accept his fault or start doing defend as like “maine nahi kiya… mai toh theek se kar raha tha…”
And from this, you both start to doing argument and at the end, your relation got disturbed. So next time if you see someone doing something wrong then don’t be angry at anyone or never criticize anyone.
And this will help you to make friends and influence people.
Trick No. 2: Appreciation
In this life, if someone wants something from others then that is appreciation but in this busy life, we forget the people to appreciate. Why he doesn’t appreciate me.
And think yourself also that last time when you did appreciate your mother in case of food or something else. Appreciation makes the man humble or you can create your position in their heart through appreciation. So if you want to win girl’s heart or guy’s heart then appreciate them and if someone helps you then you have to say thank you to them.
Trick No. 3: Arouse in the other person an eager want
Don’t tell people what you want in fact tell them how it’s beneficial for them.
Example: If I say that please subscribe my video channel I want 1 lakh subscribers then there is only 8% chance that people will subscribe but if I will say that if you found my videos useful then please subscribe my channel. Then 95 % chance people will subscribe your channel. So in the next time if you want something from others then tell them the benefits for them instead of your benefits.
Trick No. 4: Become genuinely interested in other people
If you want to create space instantly in girl’s heart or guy’s heart then show genuine interest to other people.
Example: If you are meeting with a singer then show him an interest that you like singing and ask them that how you have started your singing career. And ask him their favorite songs? And only talk about related to them instead to your’s related. From this, he will think that you are interested in him.
And this is a fact if you will show interest to people then people will come and like to you. And at the end, they will also show their interest in you. So only talk related to them. And from this, you will instantly win friends and influence people.
Trick No. 5: Smile
A smile is the most powerful weapon. A smile is a thing from which you can convert bad mood into a good mood.
There are a lot of benefits for a smile but the biggest benefit of a smile is that “smile shows that you are happy to see them”.But there is a technique of doing smile and that is if you are smiling and then you are seeing the person you will look weird person. Now the question comes to your mind is that how to smile? when you create the eye contact between you and that person then do the smile and from this, your smile will look genuine.
Trick No. 6: Remember Name
In this world, everyone loves mostly their own name. So if you will meet with a new person then always remember their name. And if you have a problem in remembering the people’s name then most of the time repeat their name in your conversation.
For example: If someone’s come to you and telling his name then you have to repeat his name like this:
She: Hi, I am Riddhi …
Me: “Hi Riddhi, Riddhi is a good name and in fact recently we put the name Riddhi to my uncle’s daughter. Nice to meet you Riddhi. We will meet later.”
And like this, you can repeat their name 4-5 times in a conversation and you can easily remember her name easily.
And always remember if you want to become a likable person or want to win friends and influence people then call people by their first name.
Trick No. 7: Be a good listener
Recently around a few days ago, I stand somewhere for going to college and suddenly an uncle comes to me and starts talking with me. He said due to raining his car is not getting to start and he has to go somewhere urgently but he cant find any auto or any vehicle. The bus is also running very late and he got very late then he talks to me for half an hour and at the last, he told me that he is having sweet-cakes shops in that mall and also he gave me his shop card. And when he is going then he told me nicely to meet you.
In fact, he is only talking with me and I m only giving reply as like yes yes, good, great, wow, well done, nice, etc. I am only repeating these kinds of words. And after few days my friend birthday come so, I think about that shop then I went to that shop and he gave me 50% off on that cake. So if you also want to win someone’s heart then listen to his talks completely instead of this, you are talking and you are not giving the chance to other of saying something. And this trick will improve your personality development.
Remember: You have to talk only 20% and give them a chance to talk 80%
Trick No. 8: Talking terms of the other person’s interests
When you will meet someone then you have to talk about their interested topic instead of your interest. If you meet someone and you start talking about your interest as like “Yar i love horror movies, I don’t like fighting movies and you know: 1 horror Hollywood movie is coming”. If you talk someone, related to your interest only, then there is very less chance that he will talk to you next time in the future.
So if you want to be a likable person then talk to the people only and only on their interests instead of your interest. As like what he like? what are their hobbies? what does he like to do in free time? and so on.
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